3 Things that Every Long Distance Boyfriend Should Know

3 Things that Every Long Distance Boyfriend Should Know

Long distance relationships are a piece of work. Many of us who are in a long distance relationship would find ourselves nodding in unison at that indisputable fact. But whether you are living together or are a hundred miles apart, there are simply some things that one can’t do without in a relationship. Of course, given that it is truly a serious relationship and not a merely fleeting romance.

We all know that men and women are wired differently. From the biological make-up to the emotional responses down to the cognitive thought processes and the applied behavior, we are well aware that males and females are distinct and unique in their own right.

Needless to say, we can find ourselves in a rut, should we fail to realize that the manner of approach among the sexes varies and cannot necessarily be used interchangeably. For this reason, I find myself having to write a brief exposition aimed at assisting the members of the male species that are involved in a long distance relationship. This should be fun, don’t you think?

If you find yourself reading this, it is either your long distance girlfriend was clever enough to sneak this for you to read in the hopes that you would take the hint or you are regrettably in the rocks, forced in some alternate universe to seek out advice on the World Wide Web regarding how to save your long distance relationship, if not to at least understand why it has failed or why it is currently hanging by on a very loose thread. I’d rather hope that your reason would be the former, rather than the latter.

Moving on, allow me to say that you are not alone. A growing number of people from around the world find themselves in a long distance relationship. I know of quite a few friends and colleagues that are in a long distance relationship or have been in a long distance relationship at one point or another. Even I, myself, have been in a long distance relationship a couple of times. Truth be told, I am in one right now.

I know what you’re thinking. Do you wonder how it is possible to make a long distance relationship work? What exactly are some of the things that every long distance boyfriend should know? Well, let me enumerate the top 3 things that your long distance girlfriend could only wish you knew:

1.     Reassurance

Every girl in a relationship, especially in a long distance one, would need constant reassurance from their partners, whether they admit to it or not. The fact of the matter is, when you are far away, we would like to know that it’s not just us you left behind temporarily—but your heart as well. I don’t mean that in a literal aspect, of course, but you ought to get the picture.

We would like to know and feel that you still care about us, that you still have only eyes for us, and that you will be back to be with us for good in the not-so-distant future. It gives us, women, the strength to cope from being away from you and it arms us with the power to ward off nearby men offering some sort of comfort.

Yes, unlike men, women would like to be constantly wooed and reassured that they are, in fact, still the apple of your eye. After all, you are in a faraway land with sometimes exotic and unknown women, and we would like to establish our superiority among them. It’s not that we are insecure, but we, women, also have that sense of pride.

Reassurance helps in keeping the females happy and avoids them from looking elsewhere for some consolation or hint of love. So, if your girlfriend is constantly bugging you and repeatedly bombarding you with questions like asking you whether you still love her and things of that nature, then that’s a clear sign that they want your reassurance.

2.     Time

Yes, we need your time. Who doesn’t? It is hard enough that you are a thousand miles away from us, but what is even more difficult is if you are in a completely different time zone. We, women, would like to feel that we are still an integral part of your daily life and not just some intermission number that you try to squeeze into your busy workload or worst, someone you just happen to remember when you are bored with your life.

Women would like to know that they are an intangible part of you. We want to feel as though you value our existence in your life and that you would still give us your undivided attention at any day just as we would give ours to you.

We want to feel wanted. When you give your long distance girlfriend your undivided attention and time on a daily basis, it makes us feel that you care enough to exert such an effort to keep us with you. It makes us aware that you know that we are incredibly precious and should not be taken for granted, unless you want to push us away and go looking for the recognition we know we deserve elsewhere.

3.     Commitment

Now, this word is a handful to deal with. We have heard several tales throughout the ages about the great lengths that male species have been known to travel to escape their so-called greatest fear: commitment. In a long distance relationship, therefore, it is crucial to make it evidently known to us, women, that your distance does not, in any way, translate to cowardice or abandonment.

We want a real man. That, does not necessarily translate to a Casanova in bed, but rather, a real man is one who is willing to face the entire world, stand tall, and exclaim, “I belong to her and only her forevermore.” I know, it sounds cheesy, doesn’t it? But women would like to know that they are not just taken for a joy ride. Instead, we would like to know that you would, in fact, permanently settle down and be with each other for the rest of your life—and not just right now.

We don’t want to be known as Ms. Right Now. We want to be known as The One, Ms. Right, and more importantly, your future Mrs.

We don’t want to invest our energies, let alone our hearts, to be in a relationship if it would just break down, especially in an emotionally draining long distance relationship one. Thus, it is important that we know that you are committed to us and that we are the girl for keeps—and that soon, you will find a way to spend the rest of your life with us.

Man, if you can do these things, I assure you that you’ve got yourself a loyal, loving, and happy woman waiting for your return. Now, get yourself over to her—pronto! ;)