3 Signs That He Wants To Break Up With You

Throughout the centuries, the male species has always been portrayed as the strong and the brave macho by the media. On the contrary, however, when it comes to breaking up with a girl, they usually turn into such a wuss. It appears that an alarming number of men all over the world cannot bring themselves to look at you straight in the eye and say the words, “I want to break up”, “I don’t want to be with you anymore”, or “It’s over”. Instead, they tend to seek out other, more indirect means for an exit strategy. Who would have thought that they had the flair for the dramatic, huh?

Now, you wouldn’t be reading this blog post if you do not suspect that your guy is behaving in a strange manner? Perhaps, as much as you wish to deny that this could be the end of your fairytale romance, there is that pain in your gut telling you that the end has come.

 Ladies, I urge you to trust your instincts. The members of the opposite sex can and will probably start calling you names, like you are crazy, silly, or paranoid, but the fact of the matter is, when you feel that there is something wrong, more often than not, something is definitely up. It is just that they can’t man up and bring themselves to tell you the truth—It’s over. Sayonara. But rather, they would much rather send off all these signals, hoping that you would take a hint and break-up with them. Some men would even go to great lengths to make you despise them so much, all in the hopes that you would be the one to break off the relationship first.

It is truly sad and disheartening to realize that the boy you put on such a pedestal, the man you thought you would spend the rest of your life with for real this time around, and the guy who initially claimed he was different from the other guys you’ve dated in the past, winds up a coward just like the rest.

So, I’ve gathered up enough courage to encode this article in the hopes that this would pave the way into helping you decode your man’s most baffling behavior.

1.     His Words and Actions Do Not Match

Indeed, it is the truth: When your once oh-so-cute-sweetie-pie no longer does what he says he will, it is a clear indication that there is something wrong in your relationship. You see, I’ve been one-of-the-boys for several years. Yes, I have always felt more comfortable hanging out with my guy friends and playing with video games, toy cars and plastic guns. I’ve been around them for so long that I’ve winded up picking up on their strange behavior. I mean, sure, for most girls, the way a guy thinks and acts may be a complete mystery, but for me, it is just all too familiar that my boy buddies used to joke around that I was probably a woman on the outside, but a man in the inside.

So, let me expound on it further for you to better understand what I am referring to. Typically, when a guy is into you, they would be willing to jump off the bridge, swallow burning hot charcoal, or fly from the North to the South Pole at your beck and call. They would never be too busy for you. However, when a guy starts to lose his interest in you, he will make up a lot of excuses as to why he can’t be bothered to talk to you right now or what not.

Basically, as most of my guy friends—who shall remain anonymous to protect their identities and strategies—have said, when a guy is not into the girl anymore and he just wants to call it quits on the relationship, he just doesn’t feel the need to go out of his way for her anymore. Enough said.

2.     You Become the Bad Guy (I mean, Girl)

Is your boyfriend spending less time with you these days than he used to? Is he constantly too busy or too tired to talk to you? Does he spend an increasing amount of time with his friends or playing video games? If you answered yes to all three of these questions: You can be certain that he is using the time old tactic of making you into the bad guy in the relationship.

The thing is, you cannot win him over no matter what you try to do. You can’t please him even if you try to bend yourself backwards, because the truth of the matter is, he just wants to get rid of you.

You see, when a guy can’t bring himself to break up with his girlfriend, he tries to deflect, in the hopes that you’d set him free from being in this rut with you. It’s simple, really: he doesn’t have enough balls to tell you straight out that he wants out, so instead, he will make it seem like you are being too clingy, needy, or just plain crazy that he can’t be bothered being with you anymore or the ideal scenario is, you’ll get tired of being treated like the bad guy for loving him so much that you, yourself, would set his relationship chains loose and free once and for all.

This strategy is the most familiar of them all.  Cowards from all around the globe have used this tactic to get rid of their girlfriends since time immemorial. And the funny thing is, it always seems to work. That’s how you wind up hearing about this girl getting dumped in the end even after enduring a lot of pain and obstacles in and for the relationship. It’s simple psychology: you cannot fix what does not want fixing. In the same manner, you cannot resolve issues in the relationship, if it is created not to be resolved but a key to one’s freedom—free from the guilt of being labeled the dumper.

Personally, I find this psychological manipulation that a lot of guys tend to pull on girls to be extremely cruel. Having a guy turn you into the bad guy for being unsupportive, selfish, uncaring, and the like is similar to being tortured. You see, when a person expires, they feel the pain and then go, but when the person is tortured, they experience the pain in a prolonged period of time before they hopefully and eventually fade away into the light. Similarly, with this strategy, the girl doesn’t just feel the rush of pain when the relationship ends, but she feels the pain much earlier than that. And if she manages to survive through the end of the relationship, she will most likely have doubts and fears that won’t go away, her self-esteem and her self-confidence will diminish greatly if it hasn’t already ceased to exist entirely, and she will for the most part, be damaged for the rest of her life—if it isn’t repaired by the kind soul of a sincere and honest man early enough.

3.     The Future Becomes Unclear

I don’t have to go through much detail on this one. It pretty much speaks for itself. When a guy doesn’t want to be with you anymore, his once clearly planned out goals for the two of you becomes as dim as the black hole. He will try several if not all means unimaginable simply to be able to avoid the mention and discussion of his future—at least, the one with you in it.

Furthermore, his family and friends will become increasingly cold towards you. Now, if you don’t already know, guys talk to their friends and family about what is going on in their lives and like girls, they, too, share relationship woes and dilemmas with others. On the other hand, whereas girls would repeatedly work it out and desperately find ways to smoothen the bumps in a relationship on their own before they run to their friends for ideas and moral support, guys would do the exact opposite. At the first inkling that he wants out, he will go telling his family and friends that it’s not working out between the two of you and that he wants out. Thus, his family and friends would naturally distance themselves from you for the very simple reason that you will not be around long enough and they do not have to mingle with you in family gatherings in the future.

Lastly, if you try to ask questions about your future together and he finds no immediate way to be able to shoot your question down, he will give you a vague, almost diplomatic answer, then, turn towards other topics of his supposed interest. He will not give you anything definite to hold on to and he certainly can’t be bothered to clearly plan it all out or exert any effort towards making you feel safe and secure in your relationship. After all, that’s the point of the entire thing: He wants you to go away, not to stay.

Well, I guess that’s that, girls. You have to keep yourself vigilant enough to recognize these telltale signs. So, here’s a shout-out to us—and hoping that our princes don’t turn out to be frogs. I wish you all the best in love!