How to Make A Guy Lose Interest In You

We have experienced it all before. For a selected few individuals, it may seem like a regular issue to be dealt with, while for others, it is nothing but an occasional dilemma that needs to be resolved gracefully. The fact of the matter is, at one point in our lives, we, women, have experienced being adored, liked, or fancied by someone who we simply had no feelings for—and that is an understatement.

It could be a good friend that you simply just have no romantic feelings for or it could be a complete stranger that you, to put it bluntly, have no sparks with. Either way, as women, we are more often than not, accustomed to getting unwanted attention from members of the opposite sex.  And just like the emotional beings that we are, we may at times, find it difficult to reject someone without breaking their heart or self-esteem in the process.

Thus, the question is, how do we get rid of this male specie with as little drama or violence as possible? Though there are no surefire ways to make a guy lose interest in you, I have come up with a couple of suggestions that may help in letting a guy down in the most gentlest of ways imaginable. At least, that’s what we are hoping for.

1.     Talk about someone of the opposite sex

When I say that you talk about someone of the opposite sex, it can be your crush, your boyfriend or just a figment of your imagination. The underlying idea here is for you to constantly and repeatedly rave about your boyfriend, whether he is real or make-believe, in the hopes that he would take the hint that you are into someone else.

You have to use your imagination, if the situation calls for it. You can talk about how wonderful your guy is and how you love him very much. You can and should even try to bring up your boyfriend into every possible conversation that you have with this other guy, in order for him to hopefully realize that he doesn’t stand a chance and cannot compete with the man in your life.

I know that it may seem quite harsh, especially if he has professed his feelings for you. On the other hand, believe me when I say that it is much better to get things out of the way and put an end to this other boy’s fantasies of you as much as possible.

2.     Talk about things that he dislikes

While some boys would get the hint and give up on their hopes of getting together with you when you repeatedly talk about another guy, there are a few boys who may require a little more push away from your direction. Needless to say, you ought to consciously make an effort to get him to find nothing even remotely attractive or pleasing about you.

You should in no way inquire about what he likes or doesn’t like in a girl because this question might just make matters worse by sending him mixed signals. Thus, you have to be observant in deducing what it is about a girl that would drive him running off to the opposite direction. While not all of those that he dislikes might work, especially if he already likes you, you can subtly act on the things that he finds most irritating. Basically, you must act the part of the kind of girl that he simply cannot stand to be around with.

You can talk about liking the things that he obviously doesn’t like. The main objective of this strategy is to eliminate any probability in his mind that you can or are compatible with each other. Hence, you need to make it a point to clearly let him see that you have nothing in common.

3.     Establish your distance away from him

I know what you are probably thinking. There are some guys out there who just have grand delusions of being able to compete with your guy or that you may in fact have more things in common with him than what it appears, thus, it is clearly advisable in this scenario to establish your distance away from him.

In distancing yourself from him, you are letting him know that the silly romantic notions of the two of you in his head is just not going to happen in this lifetime—or even in the next. By establishing that you do not exactly want to be around him, it may eventually dawn on him that he is much better off setting his eyes on someone else other than you.

4.     Avoid sending any flirtatious vibes

Should you be neighbors, classmates, or coworkers, and establishing your distance deems to be rather difficult or tricky in your case, you should opt to be very mindful of your words and actions around him.

You see, when a guy is into you, he would more often than not try to read something more into what you say or do. This is often a common psychological mechanism that males would consciously or subconsciously do in order to protect their ego. They would, at several instances, misconstrue your words or actions in the hopes of fitting into their fantasy of one day being with you.

Therefore, I suggest that you avoid any topic that would be too personal or romantically driven and avoid any physical contact—be it giggling at his jokes, looking directly into his eyes or touching him on the knee—as this may be misunderstood as you flirting with him. In addition to that, you should try talking to him and acting around him as you would talk to your little brother or a random stranger, in that way he would not get any vibes that he, perhaps, stands any chance with you at all and should just give up.

5.     Tell him off directly

Now, should his behavior be too much for you to put up with much longer, I guess you have no other alternative but to tell him flat out to get lost. While this suggestion should only be considered as a last resort, if having him around is creeping you out and you cannot ignore his actions any further, I urge you to go ahead, crush his hopes, and break his heart straight out.

Sometimes, there are just those boys who no matter how hard you try continue to refuse the idea and reject the reality that you simply are not interested. Hence, I suggest that if you ever get to this point, you be wary of him, keep yourself somewhere safe and with trusted company and cut off all known ties with him.

I know that it is difficult for us, women, to see someone get their hearts broken, let alone be the cause behind it, however, if after exhausting all means, the guy just can’t take the hint, it’s best to set the record straight. After all, if he were a true friend or a decent human being at all, he would take the hint early on and simply move on—instead of pestering you and wreaking havoc into your mental state. Good luck to you all and I wish you some peace of mind!